Divorce continues to wreak havoc to our American society. As a pastor, I have heard this statement numerous times from people who are considering divorce: “it is best for the kids that we divorce.” The reasons given are almost always the same. The husband and/or wife do not want the kids to see his or her or their behavior because that “hurts the children.” Jayne, a woman quoted in Thom Rainier’s book “The Millennials,” offers a personal, passionate, and devastating critique of such statements: “Mom said that it was best to divorce so my brothers and I didn’t have to live…